Morning Motivation

Good morning and happy Tuesday!

We set the standard for how people treat us. Set your standards high for respect. People will only do what you allow. Over time you will have the type of acquaintances that you can enjoy life with. Life is too short to feel like shit!

@jaemichelle22
XOXO 💜

The art of The chase: how things have changed!

                      

These days I've been noticing that men who try to date me or are interested in me, they take a step back and wait for me to make the first move. I began to wonder where did men go wrong with pursuing women? When did it become okay for a man to step back and wait for a woman to call him, or wait until she says she wants to go out or even tell him the exact time, location and date she wants to step out with him!? 

I know a mans ego is VERY sensitive and I know that with women being "Independent" these days, men are more afraid of rejection than ever before. Instead of him saying "I want to take you out on Friday night at 8pm. I want to take you to this lovely restaurant with great food. You'll love it." the conversation is now " So, when can I take you out?" or "When will you be free to make some time for me?". In that moment your not being confident. You're already thinking of being turned down because of her "busy" schedule. Your not taking initiative and your not showing her that you are a firm leader. TAKE CONTROL OF THE SITUATION! 

No matter how independent a woman seems. No matter how much she appears to be strong minded, walls up, I don't need a man attitude. At the end of the day we are still Woman. Soft, sensual, emotional creatures that need love, attention and a Man. A man who's going to be a MAN! If we know we can control you and have you on a string like a puppet. We will. If we know we can have you down on your knees begging us to "make time" for you so you can take us out on a date, what makes you think you will get any type of respect from her. 

The roles of women and men are getting too far reversed. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I still believe in a man pursing a woman, courting her and making her feel like shes the only woman for him. Most men will say, "Well when I plan the date, she doesn't like it, or she complains." If you have no clue what food she likes or some idea of what she likes to do before your first date, you haven't had much conversation. I don't want to tell you, where I want to go, What I want to eat, pick me up on August 5th at 5:45pm every single time we step out and especially not on a 1st date. You learn things a woman likes through conversation. TAKE CONTROL OF THE SITUATION! Trust me, we want you to! 

The New Era of Relationships!

                            

 I'm noticing that it's taking a lot more than providing the basics in a relationship in order to become a wife or a husband. Its just not enough anymore. Times are changing! You could date for 3 months and become a couple in no time. Then be married within a year or two.

As a Woman all you had to do was take care of you man, your kids and keep your household together. Made sure your man was taken care of in the bedroom and everything was pretty much fine.

As a Man all you had to do was have a good job with benefits, provide a roof over everyone's head, a car for us to get around in and a couple of dollars to give to the kids for the ice cream truck.

You still have to provide the basics but I think a lot of people these days are looking for more. More from their mate and more from their relationship. We can easily blame television and social media. But then again, is it really a bad thing to want more from your mate. A lot of people are going for the "Power Couple" move. You know, back in the day, women stayed out of men's business. The times have changed. Men want their women to build with them. Men want women to be a BOSS like them. If the woman is a "BOSS" all on her own, she wants her man to match that. With that comes a different type of Trust and loyalty. I mean, if you're man had a good job and brought home a check, it's still considered your livelihood. But becoming a "Power Couple" is trusting someone with your life on a whole other level!

I think with that being said the qualities people are looking for in a mate are more complex. I think for these new relationship goals men and woman are expecting different qualities like: Secure, Ambitious, Independent, Business minded, Solid and Loyal! I think men are looking for woman who are stronger mentally. A woman who will stand up for herself, respectfully speaks her mind and doesn't settle for the type of treatment others thinks she should have. I think men are looking for women who will set the standard for herself, her business and her relationship. I think women are looking for the same in men, including a man who is willing to include his woman and to think of her as a member of the team. 

I AM GREAT! Tyrese Gives His Daughter a lesson in Confidence

I think this is awesome! If more people had parents who instilled these type of values into their children, the world just MIGHT be a better place. Children need to learn self respect and confidence. When you feel good about yourself you don't go out of your way to make others feel terrible. Like the old saying goes. "Misery Loves Company!" Teach your kids not to RSVP for anyone's pity party and not to send out invitations of their own.

WHAT MAKES A WOMAN SEXY TO HIM?

When you Google Image the word SEXY, Lots of half naked men and women in lingerie pop up! Apparently that's the worlds definition of sexy but to the average man, it's not. Again I took to FaceBook asking my males followers; "What is about a woman that makes her sexy?" Most of the answers have to do with your personality, ambition, your character and your boy shorts. LOL! 

Most women think a sexy outfit , short dress, tight jeans, the color of your lipstick or the color and design on your nails. In reality they could care less. I think we get all dolled up for our selves, because us as girls just like to dress up. Honestly to a man its how you carry your self when you're covered in those pretty things. A man can see through all of that simply by the words that come out of your mouth or how far you have your nose in the air. Sexy is something that comes natural. Sexy is something you don't have to try to be. Its something inside of you that just shines! Usually its noticed when your simply being you. 

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Good Morning!!

                           

There's nothing like when you roll over in the morning, eyes still half closed, breath funky, hair all over your head , you reach for your phone and there it is! A "Good Morning" text! Then you crack a smile :-) 

So what's the big deal about a simple text message. Well, it's not just a simple text message. According to my family and friends on Facebook, a Good Morning text makes you feel good, it makes you feel like you are thought of . Not only thought of but I was the first thing on your mind when you woke up. It lets you know the person is interested in you and they are putting in a little effort to show you that you are on their mind.

Which is why I love Good Morning texts! I love when the feelings are mutual between the two of us and you know that you are on someone's mind. I also feel that the Good Morning texts should be mutual. I feel that whoever wakes up first should send the message. Don't WAIT on the person to say it first, that's childish. Don't wait and then you're mad, sending out texts like "oh, so you can't say good morning!" Yes men do it too!!  That just sends out bad vibes too early in the morning. The goal is put a smile on someone's face and let them know they are thought of with two simple words: Good Morning :-)

TO PURSUE OR NOT TO PURSUE?

Growing up women are taught "If he wants you, he will do whatever he can do to get you." The man is supposed to court us, open our doors, pull out our chair, send us flowers and even ask our parents for our hand in marriage. The man has to SHOW us that we are the one that he wants but what if he doesn't know your the one that he wants?

Now what!?

We are taught to, not be too clingy, don't push too hard, don't make your self too available or he won't be interested, don't call him first let him call you, don't show your cards too soon, why buy the cow when the milk is free and the most famous one.... He's going to think your CRAZY!

So you want this guy, but what do you do? What do you do without breaking all the rules and still make him follow the rules that are set for a man  Is it wrong in this new generation for a woman to slightly make her self available with out being overly available. Is it possible to be persistent with out being pushy? Can't we bring old rules and fuse them with new rules?

Through all these rules there is a very thin line. I say go for it! Set boundaries and time frames for yourself. If you feel like your doing too much, fall back. If it's taking up too much of your time, let it go. But you will never know unless you try!

By Jae Michelle

DOM KENNEDY - SOUTH CENTRAL LOVE

jeremih - love hangover

this is his first solo release since his last project "LATE NIGHTS" was released a year ago! I love that mixtape, I still play it to this day, everyday and this is another dope track from Jerimih! If your not familiar, since he is pretty slept on his debut single was "BIRTHDAY SEX". This guy is amazing to me! Listen and Download "LOVE HANGOVER"