The art of The chase: how things have changed!

                      

These days I've been noticing that men who try to date me or are interested in me, they take a step back and wait for me to make the first move. I began to wonder where did men go wrong with pursuing women? When did it become okay for a man to step back and wait for a woman to call him, or wait until she says she wants to go out or even tell him the exact time, location and date she wants to step out with him!? 

I know a mans ego is VERY sensitive and I know that with women being "Independent" these days, men are more afraid of rejection than ever before. Instead of him saying "I want to take you out on Friday night at 8pm. I want to take you to this lovely restaurant with great food. You'll love it." the conversation is now " So, when can I take you out?" or "When will you be free to make some time for me?". In that moment your not being confident. You're already thinking of being turned down because of her "busy" schedule. Your not taking initiative and your not showing her that you are a firm leader. TAKE CONTROL OF THE SITUATION! 

No matter how independent a woman seems. No matter how much she appears to be strong minded, walls up, I don't need a man attitude. At the end of the day we are still Woman. Soft, sensual, emotional creatures that need love, attention and a Man. A man who's going to be a MAN! If we know we can control you and have you on a string like a puppet. We will. If we know we can have you down on your knees begging us to "make time" for you so you can take us out on a date, what makes you think you will get any type of respect from her. 

The roles of women and men are getting too far reversed. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I still believe in a man pursing a woman, courting her and making her feel like shes the only woman for him. Most men will say, "Well when I plan the date, she doesn't like it, or she complains." If you have no clue what food she likes or some idea of what she likes to do before your first date, you haven't had much conversation. I don't want to tell you, where I want to go, What I want to eat, pick me up on August 5th at 5:45pm every single time we step out and especially not on a 1st date. You learn things a woman likes through conversation. TAKE CONTROL OF THE SITUATION! Trust me, we want you to! 

TO PURSUE OR NOT TO PURSUE?

Growing up women are taught "If he wants you, he will do whatever he can do to get you." The man is supposed to court us, open our doors, pull out our chair, send us flowers and even ask our parents for our hand in marriage. The man has to SHOW us that we are the one that he wants but what if he doesn't know your the one that he wants?

Now what!?

We are taught to, not be too clingy, don't push too hard, don't make your self too available or he won't be interested, don't call him first let him call you, don't show your cards too soon, why buy the cow when the milk is free and the most famous one.... He's going to think your CRAZY!

So you want this guy, but what do you do? What do you do without breaking all the rules and still make him follow the rules that are set for a man  Is it wrong in this new generation for a woman to slightly make her self available with out being overly available. Is it possible to be persistent with out being pushy? Can't we bring old rules and fuse them with new rules?

Through all these rules there is a very thin line. I say go for it! Set boundaries and time frames for yourself. If you feel like your doing too much, fall back. If it's taking up too much of your time, let it go. But you will never know unless you try!

By Jae Michelle